Question : I love to Salsa dance. Along with trying online dating, I was wondering if as a guy this is a good place to meet women?

Let’s face it, most guys want to learn how to Salsa dance to meet women. It’s no secret that allot of women love to dance. As Latin Dancing can be a very sexy and elegant style of dancing. For the most part, it is a partner dance. So they need a guy to dance with.

On that basis it would seem like a good opportunity to meet women. Moreover it could be a good way to build social capital if you are a good dancer. When we are talking about Salsa, we really mean the Latin Dancing scene. As this includes all the popular Latin dances such as Merengue, Bachata, Cha Cha and Kizomba. As typically when you go to a place with Salsa, they will have these other forms of dancing.

Meeting women in the Salsa scene is a little more like socialiazing versus going clubbing. Where you are building up your network of people you know, to eventually find someone to date. As the Salsa scene tends to be a community where people come on a regular basis.

The Salsa Dance scene has pretty much opened to people of varying cultures, ages and nationalities. Particularly in large Metropolitan cities you will notice this diversity. People from all walks of life like to dance, so why not?

So all in all, this would seem like the perfect place to date. However with all things there is good and bad attributed with it. So let’s start off with the bad. (As that is not as obvious when you enter this scene)

The Bad

Conscious of who knows who is dating who : As mentioned before the Salsa scene is a community. So Women are moreso conscientious of who they date. As the word can get around pretty quickly through the grapevine. Unlike a regular bar or club where there is some level of anonymity. As fighting the social stigma of being labelled as serial dater is a constant battle that most men wouldn’t understand. So you have to be careful to not come off too strong here, like you would in your a regular nightclub.

You might see her ex’s : There are chances if you date a girl you met from a nightclub that is a regular, she most likely has ex boyfriends around. So how would you feel about bumping into her ex boyfriends on a regular basis? It’s one thing to be aware of a woman’s ex boyfriend. Another thing to see her ex boyfriends on a regular basis in your social circle. Where you might have trouble getting over jealousy or feeling insufficient.

We get desensitized to the sexuality of the dance : When most of us see Latin dancing for the first time, we usually think “Wow that’s very sensual and sexy”. It would usually be the way you would dance with when you are intimate with someone. However once you have been dancing for awhile, you eventually get desensitized to the spirit of the movements. To the point where it doesn’t feel sensual anymore. Mostly because they become memorized patterns and some people just go through the motions as it becomes normal. So just because a person dances with you a certain way, doesn’t actually mean they feel romantic feelings toward you.

What happens if the relationship doesn’t work out : Breakups could be particularly harder in this scene. Since it could be hard not to bump into each other again in the community. So you might have to stay away from your regular spots and not see your other friends. Most likely someone would have to change their routine to make this a more comfortable process

Did we scare you away yet? Good you’re still here. So if you can get over some of the bad points, then there is plenty to enjoy from the highlights of dating in the Salsa Scene.

The Good

Can be a softer approach : Its not as daunting as trying to meet people in random nightclubs. Where you have no reference point of who the women is. Where she does not have any idea who you are. So you don’t really have to worry about opening lines here. Your opening would be “Do you want to dance?”. You also don’t have to necessarily worry about acting closing on a womans number in one night. As typically she may visit that venue every week or you may know other people in your common social circle. So you can take your time with this if you want to. As your focus is moreso to build up your social network, which women just happen to be part of.

Salsa is great for impressing someone outside the scene : Allot of people enter the Salsa scene expecting to meet the love of their life. Only to find aside from dancing they might not have anything else in common with someone else. Not having enough to build a foundation for a real connection. However allot of people actually find having the SKILL of Salsa dancing is useful. Particularly for attracting someone who is NOT in the Salsa scene. It makes you seem particularly more interesting to someone who can see that you have a passion and are good at something. Along with the fact they are not as desensitized to the sensuality of the dance as mentioned.

Helps to build comfort in expressing sexuality : Depending on what part of the world you are from, you might not be comfortable with expressing your sensuality. Particularly with North American or Asian cultures, there is an air of conservativeness. A dance like Bachata forces you to be comfortable with expressing sensuality. So in essence it can help you get more in touch with that side of yourself that has been locked away.

Great place to meet women at night without alcohol : Great thing about the Salsa scene is that if you go to a Salsa club, you don’t necessarily have to drink. In fact many people don’t drink at Salsa events. So there is no social pressure to do so. If anything you would want to manage your alcohol and not be all over the floor. So you are essentially meeting women where drinking alcohol is not the norm. So when you make an impression with a woman, it’s not the drunk side of herself talking that shows up at regular night clubs.

Great Exercise : Latin dancing can be a great way to work up a sweat. As it can be a good aerobics exercise. Sure you may not get a ripped toned body from doing that alone. However if you are dancing, along with pursuing other avenues of fitness it can be a great complementary exercise. So where else could you meet women, practice your game, enjoy music while increasing your fitness?

All inclusive : The Latin dance scene is pretty much open to people of all types. Sure it originally originated from Latin culture. But people of all places and races do it now that it’s pretty mixed. It’s also open to all sorts of age groups. So where else can you see 24 and 60 years mingling together. It’s not usually dividing by race, age or culture.

So hey there is no reason to not engage in Salsa. It may not be the be all and end all of your dating source (Which many people go into thinking that it will be). But if you diversify your portfolio, it certainly can have its benefits. Even if it is not directly related to helping you find someone to date or find a relationship.

So get to it!