Second dates can be an interesting thing.  It’s actually something you should congratulate yourself in making it to that step.  Since not everyone makes it to the second date.

The first date is really all about getting comfortable with each other.  It all depends on the context of where you met.  That first date might not even mean you kiss at the end of the night.  For instance if you met online, it takes a longer time to build that comfort with each other.

But for second dates it’s time to pull out all the stops.  You should ideally kiss at the end of the date.  A simple good night kiss conveys romance and that you are interested.  Since the goal of the second date is to get beyond the comfort zone.  Building upon that romantic spark.

So how do you get that kiss on that second date?  Well first it’s hard to get that kiss if you haven’t built up comfort first.  So it is your job during the first date to be able to build rapport without any physical touching.  But on the second date you want to start to get closer physically by trying to hold hands first.

Chances are if she isn’t comfortable holding hands, she isn’t comfortable kissing you!  So you need to build up the fire in stages.  You can build this up in even smaller steps.  Start by trying to embrace her at times during the date.  See how her body language responds to your hug.  Try playfully touching her on the shoulder as you are teasing her.

Teasing can also be a way to build romantic tension.  Although you have to be careful with this and let it be natural with your personality.  Along with the fact you have to be open to being teased back.  This helps because it breaks the image of perfection for both of you.  Ideally getting you laughing together.  This is where “nice guys” sometimes fail.  Since they want to make the perfect impression on the girl.  How you are really as a boyfriend is what she wants to see.  Someone who challenges her and calls her out in a friendly and fun way.

It does always help to write out some questions that you are curious about her.  Store these on your smartphone if you have to (Using Iphone Icloud in your notes section for Android).  DO NOT pull these out during the date as that would seem unnatural and awkward.  But you can always excuse yourself to go to the bathroom.  Read your questions there in your own privacy.  Another tactic is to look like you are checking a text message.  This helps to keep the conversation flowing.

Most of all learn to relax and have fun.  Doing a workout before hand can help as it releases the natural endorphins.  Yoga and meditation before your date can help.

Second dates don’t have to be nerve wracking events.  Remember if she is going on the second date with you, she is interested in you.  So it’s your job to make the second date entertaining and a fun process.